Loss… :(

We went for our first scan yesterday to see and hear the baby and our worst fear came true……….there was no heartbeat….apparently the fetus had stopped growing and died at 7 weeks….

We both cried alot in the examine room and the doctor tried to comfort us and told us that it was normal to lose the first pregnacy it was a 1 out of 3 change it wouldnt survive.

I cant express the pain i felt then and even now after we have been trying for 2 years for a baby and now to lose it when we had achieved getting pregnant. When we got home Alex was a mess he couldnt stop crying and i ended up comforting him. He said that he shouldnt cry and that it was his job to comfort me i told him not to be silly and we both should mourn the loss.

Then came the task of telling the relatives and close friends who we had told that we were expecting….all were very sad at the news.

We phoned a friend who worked at a hospital to tell her and that i have to have the fetus removed and she told us to come to the hospital and get rechecked so we went there and waited for over an hour to see the gyno there who did another test and confirmed its death. It was a heartbreaking evening as right in the next room to me was a 9month pregnant woman who was moaning and the monitor was on and i could hear her babys heartbeat. And i kept thinking why cant i hear my baby’s heartbeat?

Then she told us to come again tomorrow and go and see a doctor who would arrange the removal, so friday (today) we went back to the hospital and they have given us an appointment for friday. I go in friday morning have it done after lunch then can hopefully go home in the evening.

When we left there office i kept crying again and thinking how they were going to take my baby away but then i realised he’s not really there anymore its just a little shell.

Both of us are devastated but its making us stronger because we will try again and we are coping with this out come as a couple with support and love for eachother and we wont give up.

Next time im not telling anyone im pregnant until im almost 9 months in! 😦


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rod Athleticsdad
    May 16, 2012 @ 09:10:27

    Hi Claire, We did what you did as it’s completely normal to be upset. But what cheered us up was being told that the cleaning process performed during the removal gives a better chance of conceiving next time around and shock horror….we were pregnant again within months.
    Things happen for a reason and that reason might only be another month or so away.
    Good luck and have lots of fun trying.
    Hugs x


  2. ciro1
    May 16, 2012 @ 09:23:53

    thankyou Rod for your kind words you made Alex cry about the better chance of conceiving next time and hopefully this will happen for us. thankyou again xxx


  3. Cath
    May 16, 2012 @ 11:35:15

    Hi Claire. I am so sorry this happened to you. I know it is really common but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt and of course, you should grieve and feel sad. Really hope you get lucky next time.


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